Addiction Part 2 #addiction #Impulse #Debt #BuyItNow

How do you handle people telling you what to do? Do you cave into peer pressure? Me… I don’t take people telling me what to do very well, I usually tell them where to go – politely. 😉

When it comes to peer pressure, I don’t usually listen, except to the commercials on tv, radio and that voice in my head. But that is the problem. Why do I listen to that voice in my head, when I would tell another person to get lost? Is it because I am talking to myself? Or am I?

I have never been big on talking about the devil, demons or spiritual attacks, but when it comes to addiction, I find it very helpful to externalize that voice inside. Pretend that the voice is not in your head, but a person who is talking to you. Why if that voice wasn’t in my head I would…

There it goes again, it is telling me that I need a new smartwatch. Do I hear half of you laughing at me, and the other half asking what a smartwatch is?

A smartwatch is a watch that connects to your phone, and relays notifications to you. You may be laughing and not see this as a need, but once you have one, you have a hard time living without. And I don’t just need any smartwatch, I already have an Android Wear that just does the basics, but it turns itself off after a few hours. No, I need the latest Samsung Gear S3 (I haven’t been an Apple fan since they ditched the Apple IIe for the Mac and didn’t have any way to convert).

I need one, I will feel better when I have one… Wait… what? That is one of my catchphrases from my last post. Hey voice… How am I going to feel better when I have one? <silence> That $400 is reserved for emergencies, is this an emergency? <silence> What if I spend it, and then an emergency comes up (and you know it will) and now I have to go into debt, am I going to feel better then? <silence> Do you remember how stressed I was the last time I was in debt? <silence> I had to sell my house to get out of debt! Hey voice, where are you now?!?!?!

Hmmm…. Wouldn’t you know it… The need to buy that smartwatch just disappeared… I guess that voice doesn’t like it when I stand up to it, or ask it questions. 😉

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Addiction – Part 1

#addiction #Impulse #Debt #BuyItNow

DON’T READ THIS!!! You don’t have any addictions.

I can stop any time I want.
It has been a hard day, you deserve a treat.
It’s not hurting anyone.
It tastes good.
It makes you feel good.

If you have heard that little voice inside you say one or more of these, then maybe you want to consider the possibility that you might have an addiction. I have had several such as wanting to be popular, wanting to be everyone’s friend, sweets, junk food, and… I am one of the 70% of men who have had (past tense) to deal with sex and porn addiction.

Where some of these might not seem like addictions, I probably have a different definition of addictions than most people. To me, anything that is repetitive that hurts me, or the people that I love (or love me) is an addiction. But you say, how is wanting to be popular an addiction? Quite simple, do you ever feel that you shouldn’t do something but do it anyway? Do you ever hear those voices in your head telling you that you have to look good, you need to diet, you need to spend money on clothes, food, gadgets, etc. Okay, I guess I have to say that I have not literally heard voices, but I have had these thoughts that we call voices, and they are hard to ignore. Now, anytime I hear that voice telling me to do something that I know is wrong, and I have done it before, I know that it is an addiction.

But then again, I want to be popular, so I have to look cool, buy the big brand name clothing, the latest gadgets, expensive coffee, “It’s not hurting anyone”, right? Wait… Why am I telling myself that “it’s not hurting anyone”? Is it? Who is it hurting? ME?

How much money was I spending on trying to be popular? How much debt did I go into? I think that at one point my minimum payment on my credit cards, plus regular monthly expenses (rent, electricity, cell phones and cable) added up to like $4,000 per month, and I was only making $2,000! How did that happen? Now who is going to tell me that wanting to be popular is not an addiction?

Anytime you hear that voice telling you to do something, or that it is okay, or that you will feel better; THINK AGAIN!

This voice is not your friend, it is temptation, and it will do anything to trick you into doing things that hurt yourself, or hurt those around you. Next time you hear that voice, ask yourself, why are you trying to convince yourself?